Summary:

Shane was gay. That was the entire point of this whole thing. He was a man who loved another man. And he was a man. 

He was a professional athlete, nearly six feet tall, just about 200 pounds. But for every single thing about him that he felt like served to qualify him as a man, it was like Ilya had somehow turned the dial up to eleven. 

And Shane loved it. 

or, five times that Shane is overwhelmed by his husband's masculinity and one time that Ilya realizes he is not the man of the house.